What do you remember from those first days of motherhood?

What do you remember from those first days of motherhood?

What do you most remember about those first few days of becoming a mother?

I remember the most delicious cold cup of tea and toast that I've ever had in my life. Relief that labour was over. Large folds of post-baby tummy in a red bath. And then the confusion. The exhaustion, and the loss of identity.

The love, yes. But also the self criticism and an often overwhelming sense of failure. 

I wish someone had been able to tell me then what a great mum I could and would become. 

Our activity this month is about looking back at those early mama moments and remembering how it felt...

And then thinking of the words you wished you had heard (and believed) about yourself in those early days - what would you tell yourself now that you didn't know then? 

Create an honest, inspiring, exhausted and beautiful New Mama Mantra to share with other mums who might need those words, right now.

Make together at our next #somum Make Date!

We'll be getting together to make our New Mama Mantras and share new mama wisdom at our next #somum Make Date on twitter on Weds 9 April  from 8.30 - 10pm GMT (find world times here). We have some fantastic prizes for you! 

The lovely Catherine Redfern is giving us TWO copies of her amazing New Mama Welcome Pack.

The pack is the perfect gift for a new mum - it's stuffed with hand-picked digital goodies designed to inspire and support.

Contributions are drawn from over 60 amazing women, and delivered over those first 3 challenging wonderful months of motherhood.

Exactly when a new mama most needs the love. 

(The pack also features Pippa, complete with unbrushed hair and teeth - to convincingly recreate those early days - and many current days If I'm completely honest...).

And a very special Mamas' Reward Chart, encouraging new mamas to celebrate all those little successes that can so easily get overshadowed by the bigger challenges.

PS if you buy a pack using this link, we get a contribution to support Story of Mum too. Thank you :) 

Plus, the marvellous Amy Beeson (remember her My Mum Story film?) is giving us THREE copies of the memoir she has co-written with her own mother, Sarah Beeson: The New Arrival.

The book tells the story of Sarah's experiences as a trainee nurse in Hackney in the 1970s, including lots of work on the infants' ward supporting new mamas... 

Find all the competition rules below.

Join in

Root out a photo, and take a good look at that new mother. What does she need to hear? 

Come play with us on twitter on Wednesday 9 April. We'll choose winners of the 3 books, and the first New Mama Welcome Pack at the end of the Make Date, selected randomly from everyone adding #somum to their tweets.

And if you miss out then, don't worry - there will be another chance to win a New Mama Welcome Pack - by loading your image up to the New Mama Mantra page in April. 

Even more new mama inspiration...

And for even more support and inspiration, check out the New Mama Welcome Pack Blog Hop - you can find my post here, and a link to all the other fabulous posts at the bottom of that. Read and feel better!

Other twitter competition rules

  • Duplicate accounts, automated entries, bulk entries or third party entries will be disqualified
  • Winners will be chosen at random from all those tweeting using #somum between 20.30 GMT and 22.00 GMT on 9 April 2014. 
  • The judges’ decision is final and no correspondence will be entered into.
  • The competition will run from 20.30 GMT and 22.00 GMT on 9 April 2014 in Great Britain.
  • story of mum is compliant with the data protection act. While we will share the twitter names of winners (and their tweets) with great excitement, we will not pass on any other details to any third party without your prior consent.

Other rules for uploading your New Mama Mantra picture

  • Duplicate accounts, automated entries, bulk entries or third party entries will be disqualified
  • Winners will be chosen at random from all those uploading a picture of their New Mama Mantra that fits the brief described here to this webpage between 00.01am GMT on 1 April 2014 and midnight GMT on 30 April 2014. Please note that you need to join the story of mum community in order to upload a picture or story.
  • The judges’ decision is final and no correspondence will be entered into.
  • The competition will run from 00.01am GMT on 1 April 2014 and midnight GMT on 30 April 2014 in Great Britain.
  • Story of mum is compliant with the data protection act. While we will share links to the winner's submission, we will not pass on your details to any third party without your prior consent.
  • If you don't want to enter the draw, that's absolutely fine. You can still take part in either activity and load up a photo, just contact us to let us know you don't want to be entered in the competition.